Bolted Straight Out of the Barn

What is the medical term for a person who does not process a simple message, a polite request? Surely there has to be one!

Someone at work has been annoying the hell out of me. I often look at her and wonder ‘why can’t you crawl back under the rock, you little vermin?’ Well, she is not little, she is fat. But that is rude to say so I don’t say it…..Oh yes, I just did, but that is in my blog and only to point out, paint the picture so to speak.

She thinks she is all smoking hot, with her fat person and her horse laugh, she is anything but. But we’ll let her bask in her fools’ paradise she has created for her. After all that’s all she’s got. Why do I sound so nasty? Oh yeah this is all repressed frustration, have to be cordial to her at work.

I have told the woman numerous times, what she says and does is annoying and truly irritating and can she please stop. Crudes do not understand a simple request so I had a heart to heart with a decent someone (more like vented my anger and frustration) and she promised to talk to the woman about it. Anyway that worked and she kept her crudeness under wraps. That was before the Christmas break.

Though the sight of her annoys me and her horse laugh freezes my brain cells, I thought I’ll start the new year with a clean slate and go to work with no grudges, and with a be bygones be bygones attitude. After all she did behave the last few days before Christmas. So there was no reason for me to believe it will revert.

I thought I am going to ignore her irritable habits and just try and be civil, not friends, just civil.

We exchanged pleasantries and I thought things are on the right track.

Well I am the delusional one to think you can tame wild two legged ones because it didn’t take long for the big fat mouth to open and be the annoying self again but I did my best to keep a straight face and not even say boo. Because I will look like a fool to keep requesting “can you please refrain from saying that, it is annoying?” Surely even dogs when told or trained to do something, do it…you don’t have to keep repeating, do you?

I had a feeling she could be jealous of me and this fact alluded by the one I vented with, sort of solidified that theory.

I honestly don’t know how to act in this situation…..what do you do with someone who just not a get a simple request to live and let live to the point of making the environment extremely unpleasant for me? After uttering her stupid remarks which she thinks is so funny- exemplified by the horse laugh that follows…. she doesn’t stop there, as soon as my back turns and even before I am out of hearing I could hear her sniggering to whoever is close by.

Over this long weekend I have been contemplating if I have enough to make a case of harassment and weighed the pros and cons of making such a complaint. Since I am the only one she has a problem with I am inclined to hint of racial vilification if I make the complaint. But that is taking the matter a notch further than I particularly want to go. The manager has no choice but to go through proper channels when a complaint of racial vilification is made…. and it will become a huge issue with independent mediators and later counselling for the two of us and I have to question if I want to go down that path. I don’t think I want that. Besides, racial vilification claim will not hold water as she never says anything remotely racial. Underline factor for her behaviour maybe that but that is conjecture and impossible to prove.

I really don’t know. I am at an impasse. How do you tackle a human with wild animal characteristics?

I am Kissed and Hugged Out

I am on holidays for two weeks starting today. We closed early and I am kissed and hugged out. I kissed so many and hugged so many, thank goodness not a single one on the lips this season. Hang on a minute; I did kiss some on the lips at the Christmas party couple of weeks ago. Now, don’t get excited, they were platonic smacks on the lips.

Then I walked around town swarming with shoppers and bumped into so many people, some that I haven’t seen in years and kissed and hugged them as well, wished them well for the New Year. Walked past a boutique with 50% off signs all over the floor and just couldn’t resist going in to check it out and walked out with a good haul of summer tops. I got side tracked here as well as in town.

Back to kissing -Most people here kiss on the lips (friends or people you know well) instead on the cheek, as we do in SL. It took me a decade and a half to get used to the idea of a peck on the lips (not smooching). I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. I don’t have any qualms about it now except at a big party. Let’s say someone had a B’day party for fifty people and if I am the last one to kiss the B’day girl/boy/man/woman I’d have kissed fifty one people. That is not a pleasant thought.

When I first migrated I always turned my face away not knowing the customs. Though I later learnt the custom I still turned my face away. I know some people were annoyed. Hell, I didn’t care, I just couldn’t do it. I once had a boss who always gave a kiss on the lips to every female after a party except me as I always turned my face away for a peck on the cheek. He he

What the heck, a few more hugs and kisses won’t wear me out so a hug and a kiss to each and every one of you. Have a well deserved break everyone.

Stay safe and happy!

Easy Peasy

I just came home from making the quickest $80 ever. Perhaps the rate was an atom closer to Mr Gates own gearing.

A friend always goes for market research forums in the evenings and he brags about the tax free money he makes in a couple hours. He kept saying I should register and I kept putting off saying I can’t be bothered, eventually he twisted my arm and off I went for my first market research discussion group.

The forum was at 6pm and I arrived at the venue quarter to…. thought I’ll wait in the car instead of going in too early. Went inside five to and the lady in charge of the discussion group greeted me at the door with “we always invite eight people, though we need six, thinking two won’t turn up, and you are the seventh one” You could say I was a bit mystified and unable to comprehend what she meant, so just gave a quizzical stare. Holding out a envelope, she said “but we will pay you for your trouble” but when I tried to take the envelope – you know the automatic reaction of your hand reaching out to grab something proffered to you – she pulled it back before I could grab it and started walking down the steps mumbling something… so I followed her still mystified…… I followed her without fully comprehending what on earth was happening.

At the reception she asked me to sign a piece of paper which had my name on it and handed me the envelope….. and explained, when questioned, that they only need six people on the panel and I was the seventh one and I would be paid regardless for the trouble of coming. I thanked and went on my way thinking there must be about $20 or so for my trouble.

Back in the car, I opened the envelope to find the full amount promised for the two hour session.

I lost some money last week so this will fill the gap : )

How easy was that? I still can’t believe it! Basically, I walked in and walked out $80 richer!

Now all I want is to find such discussion groups for each day of the week and earn tax free money. And they even provide dinner!!!

How good would that be?